Rule #3 was to don't fall for pretty pictures.
Most men write to the same girls with sexy pictures - while women with modest pictures don't receive any letters at all! And some of those women are just as beautiful as girls with sexy pictures... and probably even better!
You can skip competition if try to write to girls with plain pictures - just make sure the numbers will work for you; write to many girls and ask for more photos, you might well discover a hidden treasure!
And now it is the time for the disturbing and unsettling Rule #4... (Don't worry - everything will end well! )
Rule #4. Ensure you are talking to a real woman
Couple of days ago we discussed why you should use a specialized Russian dating agency as opposite to general dating sites when explore your options with Russian women.
There is also another reason why you should choose a specialized Russian dating agency when search for a partner in Russia: your own security.
I am talking about dating scams. This is a nuisance for Russian dating industry, since most people do not understand the internal mechanics of scams, and think it is Russian dating agencies that are prone to fraud.
Wrong!
Specialized Russian dating agencies screen their members and introduce real girls. It is large dating sites are responsible for 99% of all Internet dating scams. (Go to http://www.womenrussia.com/blacklist.htm and see where men meet those scammers. They meet them at large dating sites!)
You might be unfamiliar with Internet dating scene, so let me elaborate.
Dating scammers are impostors that prey on lonely people. It is not only Russian criminals that are involved in dating scams: they exist in all countries; I have seen American women begging for money through Internet personals, too.
In fact, scammers can reach pretty much everybody who placed their ads online - it is not a privilege of people who seek international relationships.
But Russian dating scammers were the first to design a special software that corresponds with prospective victims via email without any human interaction, using the set of prewritten letters and a database that inserts victim's name in specially marked places throughout the message - so the scammers can keep contact with thousands prospective victims at a time, hands-free. This allowed Russian dating scammers to reach staggering numbers of people.
The classic scheme: scammers place fake profiles at large dating sites, where they can contact thousands unsuspecting men who know nothing about Russian realities, and start professing undying love until the end of eternity - and then ask for money for visa and tickets to come to the guy's country.
Of course after receiving the money no one ever arrives!
It is a pure fraud scheme, no real things involved: all is fake - photos, letters, names, and feelings.
This whole scam is based on the "mail order brides" concept, widely promoted by media: that a Russian woman will marry anybody, just to get out of her misery. (Remember we talked about it in the Rule #2?) This "mail order brides" nonsense is nothing but a myth: you cannot just "send her money" and have the perfect mail order bride knocking at your door next Friday!
Sorry folks, it does not work this way in real life.
If you ever had unsolicited correspondence from a "Russian woman" in response to your profile on a large dating site - that's it, it was this classic scam. Real Russian women don't hang in there - and they certainly do not write to men who did not express a desire to meet somebody internationally.
Why, would you write all of a sudden to a girl at a large Russian dating site who is looking for a Russian guy?! Nope. - Real Russian women don't do it either! If they want to meet somebody internationally, they go to international marriage agencies - and if you want to meet real women, you should do the same.
All decent Russian dating agencies state very clearly: do not send money to women! Scammers cannot get anything there.
For example, we at Elena's Models include "do not send money" warning with every message with women's addresses, as well as publish it in our FAQ. We also provide links to anti-scam sites on our home page. (BTW, Antiscam.net recommends Elena's Models as their #1 choice!)
I hope I convinced you that if you seek beyond national borders, you will be in better of using a service specialized in international introductions.
But if you might be already in contact with somebody you met online...
If so, make sure you are talking to a real woman.
I often receive emails and phone calls from men who say they are in contact with a Russian woman and ask me how to check if she is sincere. When I hear this type of beginning, the first question I ask is: "Where did you meet her?" The answer to this question defines if it is a scam or a real woman. If he met "her" at a large dating site, then it is a scam!
How can I be sure?
Let me tell you again: real women do not write to men who are not looking for a match internationally.
They write to guys who advertise at international marriage agencies!
That's the first reason.
The second reason is that most large dating sites don't even list profiles from Russia! They have had so many complaints about scammers at their sites that now they check IP addresses and do not activate profiles that are placed from Russian IP addresses. A real girl from Russia simply cannot place a profile there!
I know because some of my Russian girlfriends tried. They filled the form at large, popular dating sites and their profiles have never been activated by the site admin.
But scammers still manage to place their profiles on those sites!
How?
They place them from the USA IP addresses, and put the USA location in their profiles. When the profile is activated, they change it in the profile or explain that it was somebody else who placed a profile for her and made a mistake.
! That's it: real Russian girls cannot place a profile at the largest, most popular general dating sites - but scammers CAN!
So if your story sounds like, "I was not looking for a Russian woman; we just met over the Internet" - better be wary!
If you were not looking for a Russian woman, you won't meet one!
All you can meet are scam artists that send thousands unsolicited emails to thousands recipients, and some of those guys are destined to fall for it.
A real girl can probably be in contact with a dozen men but scam artists target hundreds of thousands of people - they are in the numbers game.
Be especially careful with persons that contacted you first, and you did not state in your profile you were looking for a Russian woman. Such contacts are nearly always scams.
Most of them are… men! Yes, it is men behind most of those scams! Those "girls" are not real people. It is just a name with a set of prewritten letters and photos.
(For more details on scams and scammers, read the Anti-Scam Guide http://www.womenrussia.com/antiscam.htm - read once, and forget about scammers forever!)
The shortest anti-scam advice that I can give you in this course is:
If you do not send money, you can never be scammed.
It is by sending money men breed dating scammers. If all men stopped sending money, dating scammers would become extinct. This is why all decent dating agencies prohibit money requests and sending money from one member to another.
We at Elena's Models state very clearly on the page where women submit their profiles that money requests are prohibited! We also advise male clients against of sending money for any reason whatsoever. The result - it is no use for scammers to even try our agency! Our clients do not send them money.
This is why our agency is recommended by many anti-scam sources. (Antiscam.net recommends us as their number one choice.) We take due care to keep our database clean from scammers.
Be warned if something in your communication with a "Russian woman" happens too easily; like this gorgeous girl 20 years younger than yourself who is madly in love with you by her third letter, and who immediately wants to come and join you in your country.
Real women don't fall in love within a few letters and do not ask men for money for visas and tickets. If somebody professes her love for you and wants to visit you immediately, just send her money - it is not a real woman! It is a scammer!!
Real women are not desperate.
You need to win her heart!
It is NOT normal if a woman professes her undying, unconditional love for you before you even met in person. Real women NEVER do it - whether they are Russian, Ukrainian, American or Australian. They want you to court them, date them, tell them nice things and give them flowers.
Don't think a Russian woman will jump on you just because you live in America or Australia or Europe - if she is a real person, she needs a real connection before deciding on such an important change in her life as leaving her country, family and friends behind - her whole world as she knows it. It is a huge decision to make; and she is looking for her Dream Man, just as you are looking for your Dream Woman.
Rule #5 Is On Its Way Tomorrow!
I hope you have found it informational.
And remember...
There are 5 more "Simple Rules For Dating Russian Women" coming soon!
With kindest regards,
Elena Petrova
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